What? There’s a bigger holiday going on today? Since when?
Rancid Scumbag McCain, The Slightly More White Supremacist McCain:
The Self-Dramatizing Victimhood Narrative of Lana (Neé Larry) Wachowski
NOTE: This was originally written for Nov. 20th, but finding 5 seconds to post this on Nov. 20th proved impossible. So like a lazy ass, I’m posting it here on Thanksgiving, because fuck you, that’s why.
Awww yeah, everybody, it’s time to boogey down and celebrate the biggest Transgender event of the year. Sure, trans people might get a small pop in visibility on other days of the year. A small blip at Pride, the various sightings during the War on Christmas, stalking out some of the bathroom stalls looking for straights to freak out.
But only today, November 20th, is truly ours and so as such it must be a day to celebrate like every other big day is for every other minority group. Irish and Italian people get parades. Gay people get marches and festivals. Women used to get Lilith Fair. So I’m really looking forward to…
Somberly reflecting on how often we still get snuffed out annually in hate-crimes and weeping for our fallen.
… yay, woo, celebration hat… sigh, no wonder our suicide rates are so fucking high.
So yeah, maybe we haven’t quite clawed our way up to the “hell yeah party” level of social acceptance yet, but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a lot to get out of the day. A time to pause and reflect on the realities of the struggle can bring new strength and conviction and can make the brave actions of those willing to be themselves that much more poignant.
Like when Lana Wachowski, one half of the famous Wachowski siblings, came out as transgender earlier this year, an action that rightfully won her the HRC Visibility Award last month.
But the silver lining isn’t worth as much without a reminder of the pain… at least that’s the excuse I used to try and explain why I subjected myself to Confederate McCain’s response to Lana Wachowski’s poignant acceptance speech.
Welp, roll the shorter:
Shorter (or the last port before Jungle):
- How dare trans people react to our hatred to them with humanity and acknowledgment of our crimes! Don’t they know that the only true victims are white male heterosexual cissexual bigots?!?
Sigh… might as well dive in.
There is nothing more pathological in contemporary culture than our de rigeur celebration of the hero/martyr/victim as the ambitional ideal.
There’s something to be said for that. White Christian obsession with the image of Christ as martyr versus Christ as radical or Christ as 2000-year-old comic book superhero or Christ as fictional fucking person has lead to all sorts of painful bullshit over the years. From the demands that oppressions be left intact because the suffering will help “purify” the oppressed to the neurotic attempts to deny oneself joy of either an emotional or sexual nature because of a idiotic assumption that that makes one a “better person”, it’s been one never-ending shit sandwich.
Especially when most any oppressed person can tell you how much more meaningful and important it is to live for one’s cause than to die for it (though we always honor our fallen).
You weren’t really talking about any of that, were you?
If you can achieve nothing else in life, you can always claim victimhood and be applauded for it.
Sir, I do so hate to intrude, but see, the light from your overheating IT’S ALWAYS PROJECTION is keeping me up and I have work early tomorrow morning, so if you could please-
Yes, I understand tha-
This is why we have hate hoaxes by people like Sharmeka Moffitt
I know you love you your echo chambers and your feigned poses of victimhood, but you kind of need to wait until we’ve actually heard of the person we’re supposed to be foolishly defending and who single-handedly disproves every hate crime that has ever occurred.
, and this is why all the bien-pensants expect us to join their pity party for Lana Wachowski:
Pity party, outpouring of public support for a brave action, same thing right?
Director Lana Wachowski, whose films include Cloud Atlas and the Matrix trilogy and who came out as transgendered earlier this year, told an audience in San Francisco last weekend that she nearly committed suicide as a young adult because of her identity struggles.
“In the absence of words to defend myself, without examples, without models, I began to believe voices in my head – that I was a freak, that I am broken, that there is something wrong with me, that I will never be lovable,” Wachowski said at the Human Rights Campaign’s gala dinner in San Francisco, where she accepted the LGBT organization’s Visibility Award.
Congratulations! You’ve won the “Visibility Award”! You are now a Certified Official Victim-Hero!
You and I have very different definitions of “Visibility”, don’t we?
From Wachowski’s acceptance speech:
I am completely horrified by the “talk show,” the interrogation and confession format, the weeping, the tears of the host [applause] whose sympathy underscores the inherent tragedy of my life as a transgender person. And this moment fulfilling the cathartic arc of rejection to acceptance without ever interrogating the pathology of a society that refuses to acknowledge the spectrum of gender in the exact same blind way they have refused to see a spectrum of race or sexuality. . . .
(See? It’s society’s fault.)
Yessss, her comment criticizing how transgender coming out stories are handled by the media and wondering why bigotry is rarely given the same deconstruction and analysis that trans people in the media are is totally her just blaming everything bad in her life on society. (slap forehead)
Hey, Obama, in the midst of reading all those secession petitions and setting up all those FEMA death camps, I’d really appreciate it if instead of the usual re-education facilities, you just sent them to a workshop where they were forced to learn remedial reading comprehension.
I remember the third grade, I remember recently moving and transferring from a public school to a Catholic school. In public school I played mostly with girls, I have long hair and everyone wears jeans and t-shirts. In Catholic school the girls wear skirts, the boys play pants. I am told I have to cut my hair. I want to play Four Square with the girls but now I’m one of them — I’m one of the boys. . . .
(He never got over third grade — or Four Square, for that matter.)
Oh dear Bob in Himmel, he’s trying to be funny. No good ever comes from bitter wingnuts trying to poorly ape the human concept of humor.
I might need more Scotch to get through this.
Here in the absence of words to defend myself, without examples, without models, I began to believe voices in my head — that I was a freak, that I am broken, that there is something wrong with me, that I will never be lovable.
After school I go to the nearby Burger King and write a suicide note. It ends up being over four pages. [laughter] I’m a little talkative. But it was addressed to my parents and I really wanted to convince them that it wasn’t their fault, it was just that I didn’t belong. I cry a lot as I write this note . . .
Well, boo hoo hoo.You see how the celebration of victimhood encourages people to think of their self-pity as justified, as a reaction to “society,” externalizing blame for their own unhappiness onto the uncaring Other. The culture of victimhood permits them to embrace their selfish narcissism – their lack of empathy or understanding for the innumerable Others
Sure, my first reaction to hearing a transwoman talk about nearly committing suicide is to belittle her near-death, whine about how people who are not me are allowed to talk about their life story without being dismissed as meaningless, and want to make it all about me and my obsessions…
But it’s Lana who’s the selfish narcissist, lacking the empathy of understanding for the innumerate Other.
Truly, people flock to your blog for its unparalleled keen analysis of the human animal.
lumped into the dehumanizing category “society” — in order to export their sense of shame onto these scapegoats: “How dare you be insensitive to my problems, you hateful bigots!”
I suppose it is cruel of us, we battered and bloody victims of your callous and casual hatreds, to burden you so, to call you such filthy names in your hours of weakness.
How many bigots have found themselves haunted of a night at how intolerant the world is of their bitter intolerance? How many bigots have found themselves terrified walking home at night, scared that they might beat someone half to death and have to live with the horror of being considered “insensitive” by their victims? How many have supported the stripping of rights and the transparent dehumanizing of those they consider lesser and then were suddenly and violently ASSAULTED by those filthy lessers refusing to kill themselves and instead growing up and demonstrating the courage they know they could never possess for all their blather about the courage “Christ showed on the cross”?
And do we care at what ruin we engineer in our blood-soaked wake?
Who are the true monsters here? I ask you that… rhetorically… And non-persons aren’t allowed to answer. You’re way too selfish to be impartial.
Here’s the thing: All children experience occasional moments of social awkwardness. Many teenagers feel unloved and sad.
Yeah, me once having to deal with having a girl I crushed on not wanting to date me is totally equal to having society consider who you are an error so grand that violence is acceptable to rub you out.
Geez, you act like you’re so special just because we hate you for existing.
These problems are so common as to be nearly universal, and yet Wachowski has such a sense of specialness and entitlement as to believe it horribly unfair — indeed, a social injustice, a violation of human rights — that he/she should ever have had such feelings. And so “society” must be scolded and punished, for we were all guilty of our failure to recognize Wachowski’s specialness.
I’ll leave the obvious trollbait aside and rather focus on the meat of the issue as it were.
If it is so much a burden for your victims to be seen as victims, for your crimes to be acknowledged, for the bigotries to be analyzed, and for bravery to be recognized and celebrated…
You could just stop.
Stop dehumanizing the transpeople, stop pretending like it’s a gross violation of your rights to be aware that people other than you exist, stop blocking their right to full human rights, help eliminate the barriers to full equal participation in society, help ensure that our schools are safe for every child to be who they are without reprisal or being driven to suicide. You could just cease the temper tantrum that you and your ilk throw every single time one of your victims is treated as anything other than refuse to be discarded in the skip bin of life.
If it’s really such a pain in the ass for you, if this wasn’t just some disingenuous bullshit to try and minimize a powerful and humanizing speech before one of your readers discovers it and is forced to see the humanity in the object of their hate, it would be far more worth it to just stop, let the trans people become just another band of tax-paying people, than to think that this next round of angry denunciation will somehow make them disappear forever.
But, hey, I think we both know exactly what the purpose of this post was.
Hey, Larry, what about your ex-wife, Thea Bloom? You know, the “college sweetheart” you married in 1993, and who divorced you in 2003 saying you had “been extremely dishonest . . . in our personal life”?
Okay, I know you are being intentionally obtuse, but there is acting dumb and there is acting like you were dropped on your head at an early age.
Gee, Einstein, off-hand comments about a “personal dishonesty in our relationship” that it wouldn’t be “right to share publicly”. Gosh, that doesn’t sound at all like, um, well, being in the closet about being trans was what fucked up their relationship.
I mean, fuck, by the calvinball rules you and your ilk always throw our way, Lana did everything right. Tried to hide in the closet, tried to deny everything she already knew about herself and pretended to be someone she knew she wasn’t so as not to sabotage the life she made with the woman she loved and the career she started with her brother.
But it turns out, that try as you might to stop a faucet by holding your hand against the spigot, it still leaks out. And a-doy it turns out that the best policy for all would have been having the bravery to be out from the very beginning.
But that can’t be right, you assured me that it’s coming out now that’s the selfish act that somehow retroactively caused a divorce nearly a decade ago and you wouldn’t lie, right?
Is she just part of that uncaring “society” against whom you rage?
It still is remarkable to me how wingnuts always have their handful of carefully cultivated resentments that they simmer over for years and constantly circle around as if they were somehow relevant to everything they ever talk about.
Racist Shitbird McCain once heard about someone talking about how a comedian they once heard talked about how people blame society for him, and Bob bless him if that isn’t what he’s going to rant about no matter how dumb it makes him look in context.
Seriously, fuck death camps, fuck taking their guns away, just shove them into therapy instead.
And isn’t it possible that your rage is actually an externalization of your own guilt feelings over the cruel deceit you practiced against her?
I don’t know, giant ball of IT’S ALWAYS PROJECTION, what are you feeling guilty about?
Where does Thea go to get her award?
It’s always so quaint how nutjob right-wingers think they’ve got some knockdown case when they try and take down some recently out trans celebrity or gay celebrity because of their previous divorce.
Not just because in Hollywood (or among famous people in general, right-wingers included), you’d probably have to sacrifice a unicorn on a sacred altar at midnight on the apex of the full moon just to find someone without a divorce on their record.
But because, they don’t quite seem to get how little their delusion-created victim piece gives a shit about their disingenuous story-creation.
Do they really think anyone is going to buy that Thea Bloom is crying her eyes out, 9 years after the fact at how Lana and her didn’t work out? That Ms. Bloom hasn’t already moved on with her life and probably doesn’t give a fuck about what her ex-wife is up to?
Also, wasn’t inventing victims bad like two paragraphs ago? Did you already forget?
Wachowski’s problem isn’t “gender identity disorder,” it’s egomania. And there is something profoundly perverse about a culture that empowers such bullies, by celebrating their make-believe victimhood and assisting their petty revenge on society in the name of “human rights.”
Yeah, could have sworn you said something about invented victims being bad. Must have been my imagination.
But seriously, if anyone believes that Bitter Asshole McCain’s issue with Lana is “egomania” and not simply the fact that she dares to exist and continue to exist in a world he would prefer she didn’t, I’ve got a fucking bridge in Brooklyn to sell ya.
‘Shorter’ concept created by Daniel Davies and perfected by Elton Beard. Giving a firm middle finger to timeliness and not giving a fuck is invented by all of us, but done best by me. We are aware of all Internet traditions.™
And to wash out the taste of that out of all of our mouths. Here’s Lana’s actual acceptance speech.